Tuesday, July 13, 2010

Everyone Loves (Fetish) Porn (They Just Don't Admit to it)

Inspired by a message from a cool gal I met online.

And PBS is AWESOME

Hell the title could be everyone loves porn and it would probably be just as true.  Finding accurate statistics regarding porn usage is all but impossible.  The only numbers I am actually willing to trust right now are from the Kinsey Report which found that 54% of men and 12% of women were aroused by erotic images.  Of course, that study was done in the 40s and 50s, when access to pornography was much harder to come by.

We're going to steadfastly IGNORE any study done by ABC (owned by Disney) since ABC has routinely come down very hard on pornography, and their studies are funded by such organizations as the Christian News Wire, and the National Coalition for the Protection of Children and Families.  No bias there at all.

Even Mickey Needs Orgasms...

What I did is I looked though my buddy list on AIM.  I have a legitimate interest in human sexuality and am very open to both giving and receiving advice, stories, and so on about sex.  So I know the habits of my friends fairly well.  I considered regular porn viewing to be once or twice a week, and expanded it to include nude images of current sexual partners as well as graphic literature.  Yes women, those romance novels you read are porn.  Get off your high horses.


por·nog·ra·phy

  1. Sexually explicit pictures, writing, or other material whose primary purpose is to cause sexual arousal.

Does Buddy X View Porn Regularly?


So from my informal study, throwing out those whose habits I am not privy to, 75% of men and 63% of women regularly view pornography.  Granted many of my friends are of the younger and more progressive variety, but those numbers are pretty similar to what a smattering of google searches shows, that about 70% of Americans regularly view pornography.

So we've established that the American People love their porn, even if they are ashamed to admit it.  (As ABC studies routinely suggest that 75% of Americans think pornography is morally wrong.   One study said 94% of Americans believe a ban on pornography should be legal.  Ridiculous).

Moving right along, the article I linked at the top of the page states: 

"In a recent study at the Kinsey Institute we found, rather surprisingly, that a group of highly sexually active men did not respond to porn clips that had proven successful in eliciting sexual responses in earlier studies. It was not until we provided them with a wide variety of porn clips to choose from, depicting anything from group sex to sadomasochism (S&M), that we started to obtain clear signs of arousal."


It feels good to be liked, and to feel like part of a group, and as such everyone wants to fit into a contrived definition of "normal" when the truth is people are anything but.  Literally everyone has some sort of fetish or preference regarding sex.  Some are relatively common, like "boob-guys" and "ass-guys."  Some are less common, like foot and bondage fetishes.

There is a stigma attached to such things, and too often people are afraid to be seen of as weird or think of themselves as weird.  Especially when the public is wholly ignorant as to what bondage actually is.  Are you picturing a woman like the above, perhaps leather masks and hoods and paddles?  Well don't.  Bondage is simply the act of restraining someone.  If you've used fuzzy handcuffs during sex, you've done bondage.

Admit it, you like this.


Once people realize that, many of them find that they actually enjoy aspects of something they previously found extremely distasteful.  How many women like being held down?  That's a form of bondage.  Hell, sex in itself is often a type of power exchange.  One party is usually on top, controlling the action.  While you might not think of it that way the next time your girlfriend is riding you, she is in a dominant position and you are in a submissive one.  The more you know...

It's kind of funny how people dismiss dominant - submissive or master - slave relationships as being inordinately strange.  There is a degree of power exchange in every aspect of sex, those people are just realistic about it and bringing it to the forefront.  The people that denounce such  things are the same people that enjoy frequenting strip clubs, playing strip poker, or photographing their partner nude.  Those things are exciting because they put one party in a position of power.  It's the reason why people enjoy oral sex and when their partner wears sexy lingerie (preferably the girl, but hey to each their own).

The bottom line is you people are weirder than you think.  Why don't you eliminate a source of stress for yourselves and embrace it?

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